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Today I was browsing through my feed when I came across this image, first hearted by user Leticia Tomazini. It got me thinking about the concept of loneliness–can it actually be a good thing once awhile? And if so, what can you you learn about yourself from being alone?
One of my favorite things about We Heart It is that it’s a safe place we can come to explore our thoughts and points of view without being judged. “Lonely but Fabulous” means something different to everyone.
When I first hearted the photo, I immediately thought of when I first moved to New York City the summer after my sophomore year of college. I’d moved for an internship and lived in a dorm with three other girls, all of whom were strangers, for three months.
Ironically, despite being literally surrounded by people, it was the most alone I’d felt in my entire life. Actually, the presence of other people made me feel more lonely–everyone seemed to be having fun with their friends, chatting away, laughing, smiling…while I, even if I was faking happiness, felt emptier inside by the minute.
What I didn’t realize then was that it doesn’t matter whether you’re in the busiest city in the world or an empty, wide-open field all by yourself–loneliness can creep up on anyone, at any time. I decided it was okay to feel sad — and that instead of looking at it as a negative, I could use the experience to learn to rely on myself and myself alone — something I’d never done before.
In New York, by myself, I became my own best friend. I learned I could take care of myself. I learned I could entertain myself — with a book, alone in a restaurant, for example. When situations arose that made me uncomfortable, I heard myself loud and clear — “Get out of here, it’s not safe,” or “What are you doing? You aren’t okay with this. Leave. It’s okay.” When I accomplished things–at work, or even just venturing into a new part of the city by myself–I learned I didn’t need praise from others in order for my accomplishment to count. I could be proud of myself and that was enough.
This is just one example of “Lonely but Fabulous” — I see instances of this concept all over We Heart It every single day. Check out my collection of “Lonely but Fabulous” images for inspiration to use in your daily life and feel free to start your own collection inspired by this awesome phrase — I’ve included tons of photos of people curling up with a book, traveling alone, spending time meditating and listening to music.
Hearters, what does “Lonely but Fabulous” mean to you? Tell us below in the comments section, and don’t forget to post links to your favorite quote collections.